Yet another inner struggle I often wrestle with is the choice between settling into life’s given narrative and resting there… or surrendering to an unrelenting thirst to question, to seek, to know more. Sometimes, I even feel a quiet envy toward those who have made peace with the story handed to them—those who are content,... Continue Reading →
Beyond Sin: The Divine Nature of Human Experience
Sin vs. Experience The concept of sin has been a constant companion throughout my life, hammered into me from childhood and throughout my journey as a Christian. Sin—what is it, really? I’ve been taught to see it as this evil seed embedded deep within our very nature, almost woven into our souls. Sin, in the... Continue Reading →
The space between doubt and Faith
Doubt vs. Certainty Throughout the years, I’ve had people look at me sideways for expressing doubt when it comes to religion. Some were bothered by it, as if doubting meant disrespect. But for me, doubt is not only natural—it’s necessary. I’ve never seen doubt as weakness. I’ve seen it as the beginning of true faith.... Continue Reading →
Faith vs Knowledge: The Inner Weighing Scale
Faith, to me, is to the spirit what knowledge is to the flesh. Faith is that sacred whisper within—the unseen force we lean on to heal, to create, to move forward, to transform, to simply keep going when we can't see the full picture. Knowledge, meanwhile, is the trusted tool of the flesh—it’s what the... Continue Reading →
The Trinity
The Trinity Within I hold a different view on the Trinity—not as something distant, external, or institutional, but as something deeply intimate. To me, the Trinity is not merely a doctrine, but a mirror of our inner world: the Father, the Son, and the Spirit—all one, and all within. The Father is the guide. He... Continue Reading →
Welcome to If I Know Better
I’m Jimmy Perez — a husband, father, storyteller, and seeker. I’ve written three books so far: Adam’s Journey, If I Know Better, Why Am I Not Doing Better?, and most recently, The Soul University. But titles aside, what I truly am is a man trying to make sense of this life — spiritually, emotionally, and... Continue Reading →
Sensing the Unseen: Where Spirit and Flesh Collide
What if emotions are to the soul what touch is to the flesh We often say that we are spiritual beings having a human experience, and perhaps nowhere is that more evident than in our relationship with emotion. For while physical pain can be sharp and immediate, emotional pain often lingers deeper, carving itself into... Continue Reading →
The value you give is the life that you live
One of the most sobering and transformative lessons I’ve come to learn—whether in my personal walk or professional path—is the quiet but powerful truth that life flows better when we expect less from others and focus instead on how we can add value to them. Expectation is a subtle trap. The more we expect, the... Continue Reading →
Dualism
The Illusion of Dualism It’s easy to be swept up by the words of someone who touches a nerve within us—someone who says something that resonates just enough to make us stop thinking critically. We begin nodding along, and soon we’re embracing not just the truth we felt, but everything else that person or group... Continue Reading →
What if?
My wife once asked me, with gentle curiosity, why I return so often to the subject of God. It is a fair question. I do not consider myself a religious man—at least not in the formal, doctrinal sense. Much of my life has been lived in the long shadow of strict religion, and I have seen how dogma... Continue Reading →
My Personal Breakthrough may be new but the idea of it is not
As I was driving one day, a revelation struck me with the force of a thunderclap—an insight so powerful it seemed to pierce through every layer of doubt and confusion. It arrived not randomly, but in the stillness that followed deep prayer, meditation, and reflection on the nature of prayer itself. In that moment, it... Continue Reading →
Creating Connection with the Truest Self
There are many paths to rediscovering our truest self—our higher self, our best self. But among them, two stand out in their simplicity and profound impact: **to be intentional about creating connection**—and just as importantly, **to avoid creating disconnection.** It begins with intention. Intention is the silent architect of inner reality. To live with intention... Continue Reading →
Understanding God — Who and What God Is
If you were to ask a horse what God looks like, he would likely describe a being that resembles a horse—four-legged, strong, familiar. And perhaps in that image lies a quiet truth: that we, like all sentient beings, shape our conception of the Divine according to our own form. It is natural, even instinctive, to... Continue Reading →
The Forgotten Self
A Parable of Separation Truth is not something that can be dragged into the mind and tethered by logic. It cannot be fully explained, only experienced. The wisest among us—those sages, mystics, and awakened souls—have long understood this. That is why they spoke in parables and painted truth with story, not argument. For truth, when... Continue Reading →
The Whisper Within
Rethinking Prayer Beyond Words Prayer, in its truest form, is one of the most intimate acts a soul can undertake. It is not merely a ritual or a petition to a faraway deity in the sky—it is a dialogue, a dying, and a revealing. A sacred act of peeling back the layers of the self,... Continue Reading →
The Two Within
Let Thy Will Be Done There is a quiet realm where the seen and unseen meet—a place nestled not in the clouds or the cosmos, but deep within the folds of human consciousness. It is here that a gentle tension exists, a sacred paradox between two selves: one born of dust, the other of light.... Continue Reading →
WHEN AND HOW TO CHANGE
WHEN AND HOW TO CHANGE There comes a time in every person’s life—certainly in a man’s life—when they reach a breaking point—a moment when the status quo is no longer sustainable. When something has to change—and change drastically, it's in that moment of reckoning that we face ourselves, realizing we are losing the battle and... Continue Reading →
Dad
For so many years, Dad, my heart cried out in anger, a child’s voice echoing through time, asking why you left when I was still so young, so unready. I felt abandoned, and in my pain, I mistook silence for absence, grief for injustice. I thought I’d done something wrong. I couldn’t understand why love... Continue Reading →
The Soul University
My 3rd and latest book so far was an amazing journey to write. With a very busy schedule I mostly dictated this book to my phone's speech to text notes and late nights after work I would edit it. Below I share my last chapter with you. Commencement Speech As we reach the close of... Continue Reading →
Be Great Only This Moment
Many people see me as a great man, an amazing father, a fantastic leader, and more. They sum up the small moments and decisions I make, crafting an image of who they believe I am. But here's the truth: I don’t strive to be “great” in any particular role. I don’t aim to be a... Continue Reading →
When and How to Change
There comes a time in every person’s life—certainly in a man’s life—when they reach a breaking point. A moment when the status quo is no longer sustainable, when something has to change, and change drastically. It's in that moment of reckoning that we face ourselves, realizing we are losing the battle and heading down a... Continue Reading →
Stress, Depression, and More
Stress: A Reflection Stress is a universal experience, touching nearly every aspect of modern life. For many, it’s an ever-present force, shaped by the expectations and circumstances we face: Some have demanding jobs that require constant attention. Some men feel the weight of the world on their shoulders. Some women grapple with the pressure to... Continue Reading →
A Shift in Consciousness
To master life, a profound shift in consciousness is essential. Fear is tied to the illusion of time—it thrives in the past and the future. We clutter our minds with noise and flee from solitude, treating it as though it were something to avoid at all costs. To find balance, we must ground ourselves. Embrace... Continue Reading →
Choices
Every day is filled with choices. That realization has always resonated deeply with me. Life, in its essence, is about choosing your "hard." Divorce is hard. Marriage is hard. Eating healthy is hard. Living with diabetes is hard. Pursuing fitness is hard. Battling disease is hard. Working diligently is hard. Struggling without a home is... Continue Reading →
Train your mind
The "I’ve arrived" mentality is incredibly dangerous—it cannot be overstated. To achieve greatness, you must actively manage your mind. You must trick it, discipline it, and use repetition to guide it. But never assume your mind will automatically make the right choices. The mind is a remarkable tool, like a powerful computer, but it needs... Continue Reading →
Do Hard Stuff
How does stepping into unfamiliar or challenging situations contribute to personal growth and confidence? Why is overcoming the fear of failure and judgment essential for achieving significant goals? What role does perseverance play in transforming small efforts into monumental accomplishments? How can tackling difficult tasks reshape one’s mindset and diminish the power of fear? What... Continue Reading →
Biohacking Autopilot
How do moments of epiphany and heightened awareness shape one's understanding of control and purpose in life? What role does inspiration play in maintaining a state of mental and spiritual clarity, and how can it be intentionally cultivated? How does the act of questioning oneself contribute to personal growth and self-discovery? What is the significance... Continue Reading →
You are Enough
Questions to Reflect Upon: How often do we find ourselves questioning our worth because of external pressures to change? What if our imperfections are simply opportunities for growth rather than indicators of inadequacy? How can we begin to see the greatness within ourselves, just as the butterfly holds its potential within the caterpillar? In what... Continue Reading →
Daily Beginnings
1. How does the concept of daily renewal influence the way we approach personal growth and self-improvement? 2. What is the significance of balancing reflection on the past with planning for the future in creating a meaningful life? 3. How can viewing life as a cycle of endings and beginnings help us navigate challenges and... Continue Reading →
New Year’s Gratitude
As another year draws to a close, I feel blessed to reflect on the journey behind me and set intentions for the one ahead. Today, sitting in church, I realized how often we’re eager to leave the past year behind, looking to January 1st as a magical reset. But this year, I want to shift... Continue Reading →
